Oh To Be….That Gal!

 

028dbe93-47a2-467b-bbed-2a68fc633746.pngThere is a “gal”….and she is someone I aspire to be like.

You can read about her in Psalm 1:3.

 “That person (I prefer to call her…That Gal) is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither-Whatever they do prospers.”

That Gal…she has her roots planted in a water source that never runs dry. Her life bears fruit in every season and she has enough stamina that  allows her to stay the course. Others look at her and see one who is prospering, not struggling just to get by. The envy of many; her secret lies beneath the surface, in what (or should I say, in WHO) she has chosen to be rooted/anchored into.

The health of a tree is dependent upon its root system. Roots bring nourishment to every branch and they bring stability when there are forces that attempt to uproot the tree. Sure, we enjoy the beauty of lush green leaves, or textured tree trunks that are dark with dew and having screen savers celebrating beautiful fall foliage. However…

…….it is the root system that determines the health of the tree.

Oh To Be….That Gal

She has pushed her roots down deep into the presence of God, recognizing that HE is the source of all she needs.

In Isaiah 58:11, we read “The Lord will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail.” 

That gal…her roots are not anchored in a person, or in a church or even in her own abilities. She is rooted in God Himself.

How exactly….does she do it?

I Believe the answers lie in verses 1 and 2.

“Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord and who meditates on His law day and night.”

That Gal rooted herself in God when she made a decision to STOP doing three things that hindered healthy spiritual growth: 

       * She does not walk in step with the wicked. To walk in step means to walk in agreement. She has paid attention to what she has chosen to believe and if her thoughts/belief systems are contrary to the Word of God, she has rejected them.

Is there a thought pattern that you consistently have that discourages you, accuses you or produces desires to act in a way that you just know are not in agreement with what God would have you do? Take that unhealthy thought and reject it. Replace it with the Truth that comes from the Word.

* She does not stand in the way that sinners take.  You anchor your roots in the presence of God when you stop participating in behaviors that are not pleasing to the Lord.

Take an honest inventory of your choices, how you walk. Ask the Lord if there is something that you are doing that needs to stop. I have found that I can usually answer this question even before I am done asking it!

*She does not sit in the company of mockers.   Are there ways that I need to stop talking? Proverbs 18:21 states that “the tongue has the power of life and death and those who love it will eat its fruit.” 

If I had to eat every word I spoke, how would it taste? Take note in what you are declaring over your life when you speak out. Are your words true? Are their life-breathing?

That Gal rooted herself in God when she started DOING something significant.

     *She meditates on the law of the Lord day and night.   To meditate means to “chew” on the Word of God in the same fashion that a cow chews its cud….over and over and over again. . She spends incredible amounts of time in His Word: memorizing, reflecting, praying, studying, journaling. She is constantly asking God to reveal to her a fresh understanding and application for her life….and He answers her.

     Meditation leads to Revelation which leads to Transformation.

When you really meditate on the the Word, the Lord brings a fresh revelation to you that is applicable for growing right where you are. This fresh revelation leads to a transformation in your life. You grow more like Jesus…. and growth is exciting! Growth in Him causes you to delight in His Word!

Oh To Be….That Gal!

*Rooted in the presence of God…nourished and stable

*Saying NO to thoughts/behaviors/speech that hinders healthy growth

*Saying YES to meditating on His Word and obeying

God….I Am…That Gal!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Jesus Had A Heart!

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One of the amazing things about our lives is that we are doing life with such a variety of people with varying personalities, passions….and quirks!

One of the most challenging things about our lives is that we are doing life with such a variety of people with varying personalities, passions….and quirks!

I am by nature…..and extovert. I LOVE being with people.

Lots and Lots of People.

There are times, however, where I find myself just exhausted from trying to relate to such a variety of personality types…all with varying opinions and interests….and….

Those….quirks.

I spent some time reflecting on just  how Jesus managed all those personality types.

Hmm, maybe that is why He would go away by Himself to meet with His Father? Maybe even Jesus needed to recharge and get a His Father’s  perspective….about their lives…

…as well as those quirks.

Jesus had a heart for people…a very very big heart. Check it out:

*Jesus had a heart for the PRODIGALS…He stood watch and then He ran to them. (Luke 15)

* Jesus had a heart for the LOST….He left the 99 to go in search.  (Luke 15)

*Jesus had a heart for the OUTCAST woman….He went to the well at high noon to offer her living water. (John 4)

*Jesus had a heart for a church leader with QUESTIONS…He met him on a roof at night, to give answers. (John 3)

*Jesus had a heart for those whose DISEASES WERE SOCIALLY NOT ACCEPTABLE  (Lepers)….and He healed them. (Luke 17)

*Jesus had a heart for the ALDULTERER….He defended her as a person and told her to sin no more. (John 8)

*Jesus had a heart for CHILDREN who were told to go away….He told us to become like children in our approach towards God. (Matthew 19)

*Jesus had a heart for the shepherds who were THE LAST TO KNOW…and He visited them first with news of His birth. (Luke 2)

* Jesus had a heart for the CRIMINAL on the cross….and He ushered him into paradise that day. (Luke 23)

*Jesus had a heart for a CHEATING TAX collector….and He invited Himself to dinner, causing a heart to change. (Luke 19)

*Jesus had a heart for the UNEDUCATED…. And He invited them to “Follow Me”…. and then He built the early church on these men. (Matthew 4)

*Jesus had a heart for the MENTALLY ILL and DEMONIZED….and He set them free. Mark 9)

*JEsus had a heart for those with DISABILITIES….and He healed them. (4 gospels!)

*Jesus had a heart for those who Drove THE NAILS in His hands…and He forgave. (Luke 23)

*Jesus had a heart for a servant CAUGHT IN THE CROSSFIRE ….and He restored an ear to a head. (Luke 22)

*Jesus had a heart for the HUNGRY….and He fed them. (Matthew 14)

*Jesus had a heart for the one LOCKED IN FEAR..and He calmed the storm. Mark 4)

*Jesus had a heart for the one DISCOURAGED AT WORK…and He caused so many fish to be caught that nets were breaking. (John 21)

*Jesus had a heart for the RICH….moving one to offer a tomb for His burial. (Matthew 27)

The more I considered how Jesus had a heart for each person He had created, the more I felt convicted in the following two areas:

1. It is not Biblical for me to dwell on thought patterns that would ever say, “God doesn’t care about me. I just don’t matter.”

Jesus has a HEART FOR ME!

2. What is my responsibility towards those who are so different than me, those with varying personalities, passions…and those quirks?

I need to have A HEART FOR THEM….Just like Jesus!

Jesus had a heart.

He noticed each person.

He was moved by compassion.

…and He did something about it.

What….a challenge for me….Father give me a heart for others too.

(in spite of…their quirks)

-and yes, I hear you, I have quirks too:)

 

 

 

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Back To Basics…Love!

Back To Basics....Love!

Back To Basics…Love!

 

It’s that “BACK TO” season again!

Back to school…

Back to fall sports, dance classes and musicals…

Back to the regular routine…of eating on the run.

Maybe you feel like it is simply…Back to the grind of daily life!

I feel it too!

I find myself sitting  with all kinds of schedules, calendars, forms of technology, curriculums, lists and goals in front of me. I will admit that I do like structure and therefore I don’t mind most of this! I like to plan lessons, make lists,  I like to organize programs and I love to teach! My teaching spans from elementary students, to middle school, to high school and to grown women!

I told you…I really like to teach!

I had a thought though….

“Why am I doing…what I am doing? What is my motivation?”

Is my motivation to produce an excellent program where others can learn, develop their gifts and become the best they can be? Is it to have my calendar of activities operate like a well oiled machine?

Here is the challenge for today:

I Corinthians 13:13 (New Living Translation)

Three things will last forever-faith, hope and love-and the greatest of these is love.

Love….needs to be the true motivation…for ALL that I do.

While it is important that I perform my responsibilities with excellence, I must never lose sight from what is most important.

The most basic need that each of us has is to have a personal relationship with our Creator. All of life flows out of that relationship.

“For in Him we live and move and have our being.” Acts 17:28

Each of us has been created by the Heavenly Father with the basic need of wanting to know that we are LOVED and CARED for.

The Father has created us with those specific needs so that we would come to Him…to have those needs met. He sent Jesus to Earth to die on the cross and pay the penalty for our sins, so that those who believe in Him, could be forgiven and become children of God. {John 3:16}

What do I need to get back to this fall? What will influence the most folks around me to desire God?

Will it be a fantastic program, creative power points or community building activities that will  attract people to desire a relationship with the Heavenly Father?

Perhaps it will be how I beef up my website and increase my visibility? Or maybe, a VLOG with over a thousand views?

I think not.

I need to get Back to the basics….LOVE!

My motivation for ALL I do needs to be to loving those that God brings in front of me.

I need to make sure that LOVE leads all I do.

1 John 4:19 (NLT)

“We love each other because He loved us first.”

The Lord placed a picture in my heart about this….I saw myself like a watering can, the kind with the long spout that curves out. He was this faucet that kept pouring out wonderful fresh water into me….filling me until the water not only poured out the spout but it was overflowing out the top!

I asked Him about this picture and He impressed on me this simple thought:

I am to make sure that my top priority in my planning…is to come to Him every morning. He wants to POUR into me His presence, His perspective, His plans, His power…and His LOVE (not only towards me but the Love He has towards those He will bring across my path that day).

As He pours into me, loving me first, I will then be able to pour out that love onto others….and that love, will draw them back to the source…Him!

Back to basics….LOVE.

Yes, I will continue to love to plan, schedule and make lists.

Yes, I will still enjoy creating power points, sending emails and having meetings.

However, my GOAL for each day will be something so BASIC….LOVE.

*I will take the time to make sure I fill up on His love for me and ask Him to increase my love for others.

*I will take time for the one that God has cross my path that day…to express to them in words and deeds that they are loved and cared for.

It’s Back to Basics Season!

Let LOVE lead all you do!

 

 

 

 

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Boldy Rooted

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Picture this.


One foot on a desk and the other on a rolling office chair, stretching high with my right hand to reach a Bible commentary that was just….out of my reach. Eyes focused on the prize and yet, aware that my back leg was slowly inching away from the desk.
Fortunately, this time, the story ended well and I was able to grab that commentary!

But I knew better.


I graduated with a degree in Physical Therapy and have spent the past 27 years teaching my patients about how to improve their CORE strength and stability and how to navigate life with greater safety.
If you are going stretch/reach out of your comfort zone, you need to make sure that your foundation is solid. Your CORE needs to be strong, firm and secure. (Needless to say one foot should not be on a moving object!)


Ephesians 3:20,21
“Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations for ever and ever! Amen!”


This is a verse about stretching. Beyond.

*Beyond what feels comfortable.

*Beyond what we think we are capable of doing.

*Beyond what others say we have potential for.


That is why CORE STRENGTH is so important. Stability. Having a firm foundation to stand upon.


Psalms 1:1-3 gives us a road map to developing CORE strength.


Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
2 but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.
3 He is like a tree
planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season,
and its leaf does not wither,
In all that he does, he prospers.


CORE EXERCISE #1. The Company You Keep Influences Your Core Strength


My inner circle of close friends directly influence my view of God, of myself and of life in general. Proverbs 13:20 tells me that “Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm.” We all need friends who will challenge us to align what we believe and how we live with the standard set forth in the Word of God. These friends have rooted themselves in holding fast to Biblical principles for life. These friendships strengthen our CORE! (Consider the effectiveness of exercise classes where everyone is cheering each other on in their effort to become healthy!)


CORE EXERCISE #2: The Word of God Influences Your Core Strength


My delight is to be in the law of the Lord and I am to meditate on it day and night.

The Hebrew word here for delight is “hepes” which means ” one’s wish, desire, pleasure, request, delight”. When I set my desires/wishes on the study of God’s Word, I find myself discovering WHO God is and my identity in Him. How can you, in practical ways, meditate on the Word day and night? It doesn’t mean that you get to neglect errands, a job and that ever present pile of laundry( I wish!)! Make it a priority at some point in your day, to consistently take some time to read, to study deeper and reflect on a Truth nugget from scripture. Then, throughout the day, continue to reflect on what you learned and ask the Holy Spirit to continue to reveal to you how to live out what you learned. Meditation on the word causes you to become firmly rooted in Christ and your CORE strengthens.


CORE EXERCISE #3: Where You Are Planted Influences Your Core Strength


There is an old phrase that says, “Bloom where you are planted.” I believe there is some truth to that…we are to look for ways to make the best of where we find ourselves in life. However, without a doubt, a tree will thrive better when planted close to a water supply.


Live…on…purpose.


Take an assessment of your life to determine if your closest friends are encouraging your walk with the Lord. If you cannot answer a confident yes to this, then make a step today to “plant” yourself in an environment where you will develop friendships with others who have rooted themselves in a deep relationship with the Lord.


Take another look now. What can you do, today, to increase your commitment to read,study and meditate on the Word of God? Merely reading the Word of God daily is like doing ten sit-ups once a day and expecting your CORE to become a six-pack. If you repeat those sit-ups throughout the day, day after day, that six-pack will start to appear.


BOLDLY ROOT YOURSELF in the Word of God and in friendships that are committed to Christ.


And watch that spiritual six-pack CORE develop!


(By the way, merely sitting next to an exerciser does not impact your CORE strength….YOU need to get down on the floor and start those crunches!)


Be BOLD. Be ROOTED.


Start…now!

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I See Half Full, God Sees Room To Fill

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            I See Half Full, God Sees Room To Fill

There have been many times in my life where I have felt left out.

Left out of invitations, left out of conversations, left out of inside jokes…third wheel.

Left out.

The widow in 2 Kings 4:1-7 had reason to feel left out too. Her husband had died leaving her to raise her two boys alone. She had debt that she could not pay and now the creditor was coming to take her sons as slaves as payment. I am sure she could see other families in the village thriving: husbands working, wives raising children who seemed to have no cares (at least cares as heavy as her own). Left out. Her husband had been a prophet of the Lord…. but he was gone. Perhaps she wondered if God too, had left her side.

Elisha is summoned for help by this desperate woman. He tells her to give an account of what she has in her house.

“Your servant has nothing there at all,”she said, “except a small jar of olive oil.”

She saw NOTHING. She barely acknowledged what she DID HAVE; compared to what others had, it looked like/felt like…nothing.

Her “nothing” provided room for God to do a miracle. Elisha tells her to gather every pot she can get her hands on.

Every pot in her own home.

Every spare pot from her neighbors.

“Then go inside and shut the door behind you and your sons. Pour oil into all the jars, and as each is filled, put it to one side.” And she does.

Miracles happen when we are obedient regardless of whether God’s instructions make any sense to us.

She saw “half full” but God saw “room to fill”.

God wrote the end of this widow’s story. She ran out of pots for all the oil that God provided. Her debts were paid. She had more than enough left over to live on.

I have learned…and continue to learn…that being left out/feeling left out…has been a huge gift from God. I have sought Him for help in that lonely place. When I looked at a weekend that was empty because I had not been included in someone else’s fun, I merely asked the Lord how HE WOULD FILL IT.

And He did. He has directed me to friendships and experiences that have been so rich and meaningful. I would likely have missed them had I been included in everything else.

One of Satan’s tactics to keep us from experiencing all God has for us is keeping us busy…all the time. Full calendars. Full work load. Overload of information from social media. There is frankly…no room for God to fill us with fresh oil that comes from  alone time with Him. No room for reaching out to someone new to us.

Feeling left out? Feeling like “all I have is just a little oil”?

Commit what you DO HAVE to Him.…not only what He has already given to you, but the SPACE that is empty. Allow Him to FILL YOU WITH FRESH OIL…

He wants to use your “left out” feeling to do the miraculous in the life of the dry and thirsty folks around you!

 

Father, take my “half full” and fill it…to overflowing!

 

 

 

 

 

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Hostess With The Mostest

hostestThere must be something in my DNA that is wired to hostess. I just love to plan, prep for and carry out a entertaining a houseful of guests. 

The more…the merrier, I say!

Guests are welcome for a brief coffee, a long evening, a weekend….shoot, we have had folks live for us for months at a time!

I learned a lot from my mom about hostessing. Mom modeled how to have a hospitable spirit. She was organized, flexible with the plans changing, focused on folks feeling valued and loved with “their” special meals and she put the wishes of others in front of her own.

You see, there is a big difference between being an “entertainer” in your home and being “hospitable.”

Just ask your guests! When your focus is on entertaining, your guests leave impressed…but they also may struggle with feeling down on themselves for their own inadequacies. “I can’t invite folks to my home….I would have to spend a year preparing my home first so I wouldn’t die of embarrassment!”

On the contrary, a hospitable person just knows how to make the guest themselves, feel at ease. Their emphasis is on how to bless that guest by placing their desires and needs above their own. There is a realness, a transparency, that floods the atmosphere of the home. One does not need to have a perfect outfit, a perfect meal, a couch with no stains, a dog  (or child) that never has an accident…

I used to struggle with letting others see the real me. It led to bondage. I would try to “dress up and play the  part” of  June Cleaver…after all, my husband’s name is  Ward Keever…you have no idea how many years I have heard that joke of….”Are you related to Ward Cleaver?”

I had this desire to entertain (I later learned it was actually a spiritual gift(I Corinthians 12). Where I had gone off track was in believing a lie that to be a good hostess, I had to be perfect. My marriage had to be perfect. Good grief….my children had to be perfect! And my angel food cake couldn’t collapse!

Believing that lie caused me to become very tense with my family as I was preparing the home for entertaining.

I Peter 4:9 states “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.”

Ouch! This unrealistic pressure to present perfectly that I placed upon myself, as well as on my whole family, made me edgy and grumbly….behind the scenes. In front of others, however, I knew how to put on the smiles and the laughter. Not only was I wounding my family and causing my company to feel like they too had to be perfect….but I was wounding the very heart of God. He never asked for me to be  perfect  in my hostessing. He just asked me to open up my home and my heart to others and to just love them.

You see, believing that lie that a hostess needs to be perfect pushed me into the bondage of believing that my worth/value was anchored in my performance and in the opinions of others.

My value comes from God loving me first, while I was in my least “put together” state…covered in sin. (Romans 5:8) He put HIS needs aside first, stepping into my world, so He could go to the cross and pay the penalty for my sin. Philippians 2:6-8

I still love to hostess folks in my home….I love to make it enjoyable with good food, smells and lots of laughter. However….now a days the smile is real…my family is happier…the atmosphere is light and no one is grumbling. Freedom! Freedom for me to be me…and for you to be you in my house. I can’t put into words how much more enjoyable it is to open up my home now!

I close with some examples of what this new freedom has looked like….being the hostess with the mostest.

1. I leave my drying laundry out drying on door knobs rather than shoving them in a closet…still wet!

2. I laughed when a gal reached into the sofa cushion looking for her pen and pulled out a petrified cheese stick hidden by my son (that was years ago!)

3. A gal I was meeting for the first time entered the front door and immediately helped me pull out my son’s loose tooth so I could go get Bible Study started. (also years ago…the boys have all their big teeth now!!)

4. I allow friends to help me clean up the kitchen and put the food away, with access to ALL my kitchen drawers.

5. My friends know where to find more toilet paper in my house.

6. I am comfortable having company during the three weeks the spring ants move into my kitchen.

Do you see the difference?

My guests see it…and funny thing is, I used to think that if they saw me for “who I really was” that they would decide to not come over anymore!

Quite the opposite has happened. The more REAL I have been  with them…the more REAL they have been with me.

(…and the next time they come over…they bring another gal unannounced…just because…they can!)

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The Wrapping Paper Doesn’t Define You

youareinvited_sml Have you ever been to a GIFT EXCHANGE party….one where you get to pick a gift from the pile…and then spend the next 2 hours “stealing” the gifts from one another until there are no more gifts to be selected from under the tree? This game is so fun…it can also be somewhat aggressive! I have seen wonderfully kind friends…show another side that is cut throat, greedy and scheming! One might think we were playing some variation of The Hunger Games where only the fittest survive!

I have stolen gifts, tackled folks, teamed up with my husband…all in order to secure “the perfect gift” by the end of the game….only to discover that my hard fought for treasure, was an 11×14 picture frame of a ridiculous picture of a friend’s head!

Lesson to be learned….the wrapping paper doesn’t define the value of the gift inside!

In Luke 2:4-7 we discover that God didn’t wrap Jesus, the Messiah, in the finest wrapping paper either. Mary’s pregnancy was full of raised eyebrows and speculation in her community, her arrival in a crowded Bethlehem demonstrated that not only was there “no room in the inn”…but worse than that, no one looked at her and valued her enough to even make room for her in the inn! A judgement was made by others, based upon outer appearances, that giving birth in a stable/cave for animals, would be adequate for her.

The Messiah, the very one that the people had cried out to God to send, came…and they missed His entrance…all because He was wrapped in wrapping paper that they deemed insignificant. Why….could God possibly plan and be OK with presenting Jesus in such a fashion?

Because….Jesus’ value, His identity, was never established by the way He was wrapped on the outside.

Philippians 2:6-11

Who, being in very nature God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!
9 Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
and gave him the name that is above every name,
10 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
11 and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father.

Jesus knew WHO HE WAS.  GOD, incarnate, Emmanuel….God With Us.

His outer appearance did not define Him.

The opinions of mankind did not define Him.

Father, as I ponder my own life and how much time and energy I put into my own presentation, my appearance and first impressions…may I hold on dearly to the source of my own identity….YOUR OPINION!

I am defined by what YOU say about me:

I am your child. John 1:12

“Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—”

I am deeply Loved. Romans 8:38,39

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Regardless of the way I look on the outside…or the opinions of others about me…my value and significance comes from who I am  on the inside….and YOU, Father, are the one who sees who I am…and calls me His much loved child.

This Christmas, as you tear apart paper, rip tape and untangle ribbons…may the Holy Spirit remind you…that your identity and value…are defined inwardly, by the ONE who created you and valued you enough, to die for you on the cross.

Blessings,
Debbie

Oh yes, and remember, be wary of large gifts in frames, that head shot picture I won years ago is still out there making the rounds!

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